By Sajjad Amin Bangash
A mother by her very role, nurtures and prepares the future generations at her disposal. Human generation is like ‘water stream’ where the surfs of water runs off, flows, stays for a while and sequentially replaced by another wave. Similar is the case with human’s caravan. Here in this transitional process, the older generation plays its role and moves forward as the age moves them forward and replaced by another generation. So here the role of the mother carries an important role as to harness, nurture and educate this crop of coming generation. Her primary responsibility is to prepare, educate and produce it as ‘well trained, learned and effective human beings’ and display it in the fields of the world.
Now, who is the better human being?
A better human being is someone, who has a courage to stay and survive in life, free from negative aspects and filled with positive aspects of a personality – by his/her very talent and matured mentality, becomes an integral part in the constructive baselines for the societies thus equally formulates effective strategies to pass his/her life in a productive way. He/She is someone who becomes the productive source as a ‘solution provider’ instead of ‘problem creator.’ Who is an active ‘giving member’ not ‘taking member’ to the society.
We can elucidate and validate it with few real life experiences and examples. One of the constructive examples would be is that a mother should instill institutional instructions in such a way which would profoundly become the source of ‘mental maturity’ instead of turning them as ‘immature brains’. An American mother gave birth to a child on February 11, 1847, in Milan, Ohio, United States: who is world’s famous personality for his inventions. Thomas Edison developed hearing problems at an early age. The cause of his deafness has been attributed to a bout of scarlet fever during childhood and recurring untreated middle-ear infections. When his teacher found out that he had hearing problems, and his listening abilities are weak. Instead of giving him a special care, the school administration expelled him from school with an excuse of ‘retarded boy’. Here his mother played an amazing and constructive role in his upbringing and instilled a ‘dictation in his mind that he is an intelligent and highly talented child. He is not physically impaired child instead his disability is a challenge for him which he can overcome by the effective utilization of his natural talent, intelligence and hard work.
Edison recalled later, “My mother was the making of me. She was so true, so sure of me; and I felt I had something to live for, someone I must not disappoint.” Later in his life, Thomas Edison developed many devices that greatly influenced life around the world, including the phonograph, the motion picture camera, and a long-lasting, practical electric light bulb. Dubbed “The Wizard of Menlo Park”,he was one of the first inventors to apply the principles of mass production and large-scale teamwork to the process of invention, and because of that, he is often credited with the creation of the first industrial research laboratory. Thomas Edison’s mother undertook a mission of his education and the results of which are “Thomas Edison” is regarded as ‘the greatest inventor the world has ever seen. Similarly, there is a common believe that any child who is born in a wealthy family will be highly talented and intelligent while a child born in poor or underprivileged family will be less talented and unfortunate human. But this assumption is totally baseless and wrong.
A mother’s role would be to tell and educate her children that ‘being a poor or having any physical or mental disability is not a curse and not a matter of deprivation and inferiority complex. She should educate her children that although the children of rich families may have all luxuries of life but the poor families children own an unique specialty of ‘growing stimulus and incentives’ in their personalities based on which they can achieve in their life and this ‘stimulus’ can become the powerful tools for their entire life success factor. As they say “If a rich person is born with a silver spoon in his mouth, the poor person is born with an incentive spoon in his mouth.”
The mother should tell her children that the grandfathers of rich children were from poor family backgrounds and they became rich by exerting strenuous hard work, they became rich and successful thus they can also become successful in their lives, if they render similar kind of hard work by utilizing their natural talent and knowledge.
There is another abhorrent ignorance exist which the real division among our societies of ‘haves and have notes’ and the mother should immediately remove this complex from her children minds and bolster them with a philosophy of ‘considering an equal citizen of this society.’ This division is in fact a ‘wrong dichotomy.’
We often see that so many of us during their childhood belong to poor or underprivileged families but later in some stages of their lives, they end up placing themselves in a ‘well off’ and ‘successful’ section of society. Such examples are: Mukhesh Ambhani (A famous Indian entrepreneur, Owner of Taj Mahal Hotel, and several industries in India), Bill Gates (Microsoft Owner) , Steve Jobs (of Apple Inc.), Sachin Tendulkar (Famous former Indian Cricketer), Imran Khan (Former Pakistani cricketer and Politician), Nelson Mandela etc. These people were from the poor families background during their childhood times but with their sheer talent, commitment and hard work, they become the source of inspiration to millions.
Hence, the ‘dichotomy of haves and have nots’ is false while the ‘dichotomy of potential haves and actual haves’ is true.’
The most important aspects of human’s life is the existence of ‘courage and intelligence’ in their personalities. Therefore, it is the primary responsibility of a mother and older generation is they should instill and transfer the teachings of courage and believe in themselves in their children and motivate them to do well in the upcoming stages of life so that they should stand successful and confident in the play grounds of life.