Special Thanks to
Anne Evans, Kirkcaldy , Scotland
Sarah Downie,Kirkcaldy, Scotland
MarieJane McKenzie, Grand Junction,Colorado, USA
Nancy Kelly, Stirling, Scotland
For their kind help and cooperation in compiling this article.
Special Care for ADHD and Dyslexic Children.
By Sajjad Amin Bangash
When I published my article ‘Special Children, Special Care’ in my blog, a friend of mine Anne Evans from Fife, Scotland after reading this article said “Sajjad, you’ve missed one category through special children mental illness such as ADHD, Down Syndrome etc.”
Now, this intensified my interest in these particular illnesses so that I may explore this topic and write more on it. She said “ There are so many mental illnesses children can have which are probably more harmful than physical ones. Kids that are blind have weak legs, no arms etc. Can have very good jobs and relationships but kids with mental illness face several difficulties in life, have few friends. They have very low prospects of employment or love, marriages etc.”
Now, after reading this descriptive illustration, my interest expanded with a notion that why not discuss this peculiar matter of extreme importance with her so I immediately requested her if she could write on it and I asked ‘Anne, Please write on it and I will include it in my blog.” I further said ” I equally agree with you on that these children are part of our society and we cannot ignore them.” Anne kept on telling me “Also chronic birth defects such as Thalidomide. My uncle has this due to terrible injection during her mother’s pregnancy. Although, he is very smart but his arms and legs are badly formed.” So Anne agreed on to help me give ample information about it and she politely connected her friend Sarah Downie with me and said “If my friend is okay with it, she would be the best to speak to. She has 03 kids of her own and 02 adopted children and they all have difficulties. I think one of her children is ADHD. She might help more than I but she’s quite solitary and I can get some personal info and facts from her for your blog. ”
I then extended my thanks to her for her kind help and cooperation and she connected me to Sarah Downie.
Anne further explained to me that Sarah has Dyslexia so her spelling is not so great. I immediately replied “That’s so kind of her and I will rectify the spell mistakes as they don’t matter a lot. Her cooperation is of prime importance.
But before we get into further discussion that I had have with Sarah on this topic, let’s first define what Dyslexia is and what are the symptoms and treatment of Dyslexia?
According to Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, Rochester, Minnesota, USA.
” Dyslexia is a learning disorder characterized by difficulty reading due to problems identifying speech sounds and learning how they relate to letters and words. Also called specific reading disability, dyslexia is a common learning disability in children.
Dyslexia occurs in children with normal vision and intelligence. Sometimes dyslexia goes undiagnosed for years and isn’t recognized until adulthood.
Dyslexia symptoms can be difficult to recognize before your child enters school, but some early clues may indicate a problem. Once your child reaches school age, your child’s teacher may be the first to notice a problem. The condition often becomes apparent as a child starts learning to read.
Signs and symptoms that a young child may be at risk of dyslexia include:
Learning new words slowly
Difficulty learning nursery rhymes
Difficulty playing rhyming games
Once your child is in school, dyslexia signs and symptoms may become more apparent, including:
Reading well below the expected level for your child’s age
Problems processing and understanding what he or she hears
Difficulty comprehending rapid instructions:
Problems remembering the sequence of things:
Difficulty seeing (and occasionally hearing) similarities and differences in letters and words
Inability to sound out the pronunciation of an unfamiliar word
Trouble learning a foreign language
Teens and adults
Dyslexia symptoms in teens and adults are similar to those in children. Though early intervention is beneficial for dyslexia treatment, it’s never too late to seek help. Some common dyslexia symptoms in teens and adults include:
Difficulty reading, including reading aloud,
Trouble understanding jokes or expressions that have a meaning not easily understood from the specific words (idioms), such as “piece of cake” meaning “easy”
Difficulty with time management,
Difficulty summarizing a story,
Trouble learning a foreign language,
Difficulty doing math problems.
Is there any cure for dyslexia?
There’s no cure for dyslexia. It’s a lifelong condition caused by inherited traits that affect how your brain works. However, most children with dyslexia can succeed in school with tutoring or a specialized education program. Emotional support also plays an important role.”
We now get into the discussion between I and Sarah Downie.
Note: Please note that I am including her written texts as it is with a purpose that the readers must understand that what general problems dyslexic people face in real life so that we may better cooperate with them in a better, polite and caring manner.
Sarah said ” hello anne evans says you like to talk to me. please exscues my spelling im a 3rd genrashion dyslexic.”
I replied “Hello! Thank you for your time Sarah and I wrote an article about special children but want to add few more information about special children health. I know she told me about spelling errors but don’t worry, I will manage the spell mistakes. “
She said ” I have a son who being tested for ADHD , dyslexic , high fushion autsum. what do you wnat to know”
I replied ” The disease, symptoms, general life of them, treatment and problems they face in life.”
She further kept on telling me ” the problem is a lot of these condishion are interlinked so you never tend to just get one. but my son was born the way he was even as a new born he never really sleeped sent most of the day looking about wide awake.
from the sec he could move he was crawling away and would not come back not sence of danger no fears.
by the time he could walk he could run and the it started to become worring he run away half a mile away because he seen a red car no fear no worries.
no climb up on high things as something was shinny , everything had to be locked , you could not look away from him , at nursey a staff member had to be with him at all times or he get hurt and if they looked away he be gone.
he was a happy child he was funny and sporty and very skinny and he was very very very fast when he ran an adult could hardly keep up with him running he only 6!
Robb (Sarah’s son) has no attashion pain , he must be in charge , he must be 1st , he will just walk off , he is high iq but getting him to pay attashion is hard.
he not an angery boy but he will get over stumlated and start screaming and crying and take over and hour to stop if he dose not understand.
robb is top of his class at maths, whats hard about robb is can you imagen never being able to leve you door unlocked or the key in it. or being able to even look away from him if your at the shop as if you do he gone and were talking seconds, but to look at robb look normal.”
On my question as
“So what are the precautionary measures that you take for him in regards to his physical and mental rehabilitation?”
Sarah replied ” just now he just see a peditrishion and get extra support at school but he not on meds, he allways got an adult with him 24/7, he never on his own ever.”
I asked her
“So that means ‘he is not independent and always need a carer with him.”
Sarah said that “yeah, if he was left on his own he run onto a road, or climb out a window or maybe drown. he likes hight and water.
i had him at swiming lession but i dont think he get this is a safe swimiing pool and this is a fast river he just see its fun.”
I put another question on her as
“What the doctors are saying, will he ever be able to rehabilitate in any stage of life or not?”
Sarah said “ some of it he may grow out of some of it he may need teaching, the aspergis sydrum ( austum ) no he cant get fixed off and he will allways be a very hyper adult with bad contrashion with his ADHD, but like will smith is adhd.”
“Do the doctors advise you so physical therapies to be applied in his routine life?”
Sarah replied ” not yet but he only 6, just now there still figting over whta wronge with him it horrbale we been under dr care for 3 years and its like no one know what to think or do. there a lot of bad press having an adhd child and none of it true my son not a boy who spits or swears he just so hyper is effect every area of his life.”
I asked as to when exactly he will be able to rehabilitate at what stage of his life?
Sarah said ” I dono, they don’t you tell them words. its not like he lost a leg, i mean dyslexia like i have you born with you can’t be fixed it dose not go away. you learn tricks to deal with it, but being dyslexics not all bad i have a 127iq and I’m a photographer dyslexics can see the world in a way none dyslexic just can’t do as our brains are more artists. “
In the meantime I was talking to my friend MarieJane McKenzie in Colorado, USA and I added her words to Sarah that “A friend of mine told me this as she’s in Colorado, USA.
“My youngest brother has dyslexia .. he has learned how to deal with it thru the years, and its not as bad as when he was younger .. I guess his brain has re-wired its self.”
Sarah said ” basicly a normal brain has one side bigger than the other mines dose not mines both side are same side so i can’t be fixed. adhd is the same you cant fix adhd you can help them cope and give them drugs but its still there but adhd are normal very talented people.”
I wrote to her that Wikipedia says this “Through compensation strategies and therapy, dyslexic individuals can learn to read and write with educational support. There are techniques and technical aids that can manage or even conceal symptoms of the disorder. Removing stress and anxiety alone can sometimes improve written comprehension.”
Sarah replied “ yeah but were still dyslexic i will never be able to spell right im as ever as they come and fact i cant read and right at all is amazing but at same time.
Now, in order to assess her reading capabilities, I sent this image and asked as to which way you can read this?
Sarah said that” I have a have a purple filter on my computer, i have 30 years of treaning to know what opne looks right, but yes i am a double defta dyslexic and so my mum and so mym bother and so my gran.”
Then we have finally concluded our discussion and I extended my gratitude to her ” Thank you for your kind help, I appreciate your kind cooperation and I will be compiling this article and post it on my blog.”
And in the meantime, coincidently I was chatting with few more online friends as Marie Jhane McKenzie, Colorado, USA and Nancy Kelly from Stirling, Scotland, whose son was also diagnosed with Dyslexia and we immediately started to explore the topic with a proper discussion. I told that I am writing an article on children with ADHD, Dyslexia. She told me that
” ADHD! my son had it looking wasn’t diagnosed he was a nightmare. I just coped with it. my son used to escape at 5 in the morning to help the milkman deliver found out about it when 6 pints were in the fridge 1 morning, he was 3 years old. Tested him for dyslexia he didn’t have it also tested intelligence. He scored above average he was 10 but had the reading and writing off 7 year old but was making loads of money selling flowers to neighbours he would go to the woods to pick them at age 4. He never had dyslexia, it was difficult haven’t spoke to him in 6 years.
I wrote to Nancy that “Nancy could you please tell me more about your son and his dyslexia illness, how you managed to get him walked in life.”
Nancy replied ” He never had dyslexia, it was difficult haven’t spoke to him in 6 years.”
In reply, I wrote to Nancy
“Very interestingly, I am reading an article in which it says Dyslexia symptoms can be difficult to recognize before your child enters school, but some early clues may indicate a problem. Once your child reaches school age, your child’s teacher may be the first to notice a problem. The condition often becomes apparent as a child starts learning to read.”
Nancy replied that “His writing was what they call spider writing.
When I was in college doing statistics I realised that I transpose numbers I have a problem with writing the correct answer, if it’s 36 I will write 63 convinced that I was writing 36.”
My friend MarieJane McKenzie said that “My youngest brother has dyslexia. He has learned how to deal with it thru the years, and its not as bad as when he was younger. I guess his brain has re-wired its self. they tried all kinds of things when he was little even colored glasses and yes I think when he just did it on his own, after he was out of school, there wasn’t the stress and anxiety anymore. ”
How can parents help?
Children with ADHD need guidance and understanding from their parents and teachers to reach their full potential and to succeed in school. Before a child is diagnosed, frustration, blame, and anger may have built up within a family. Parents and children may need special help to overcome bad feelings. Mental health professionals can educate parents about ADHD and how it impacts a family. They also will help the child and his or her parents develop new skills, attitudes, and ways of relating to each other.
Parenting skills training helps parents learn how to use a system of rewards and consequences to change a child’s behavior. Parents are taught to give immediate and positive feedback for behaviors they want to encourage, and ignore or redirect behaviors they want to discourage. In some cases, the use of “time-outs” may be used when the child’s behavior gets out of control. In a time-out, the child is removed from the upsetting situation and sits alone for a short time to calm down.
Parents are also encouraged to share a pleasant or relaxing activity with the child, to notice and point out what the child does well, and to praise the child’s strengths and abilities. They may also learn to structure situations in more positive ways. For example, they may restrict the number of playmates to one or two, so that their child does not become over stimulated. Or, if the child has trouble completing tasks, parents can help their child divide large tasks into smaller, more manageable steps. Also, parents may benefit from learning stress-management techniques to increase their own ability to deal with frustration, so that they can respond calmly to their child’s behavior.
Sometimes, the whole family may need therapy. Therapists can help family members find better ways to handle disruptive behaviors and to encourage behavior changes. Finally, support groups help parents and families connect with others who have similar problems and concerns. Groups often meet regularly to share frustrations and successes, to exchange information about recommended specialists and strategies, and to talk with experts.
Now, if we summarize this article then we must find that dyslexic children need not to be ignored but they just need special attention, care and support so that we can understand their associated illness of Dyslexia and give them utmost care and importance so that they easily cope up with their weaknesses during their early stages of life and address this grave concern and create awareness among the ordinary people. These special children are entitled to love, care and importance. Let’s give them for what they deserve as they’re part of our society and together, we can make this world even more beautiful. Education is the most powerful tool in human development and emancipation.